Although DateMapps is projected to be the premier resource for planning out your next date, we realize there’s more that goes into making sure it will go well. We just feel that planning it out is the most important part. But, if you can’t follow these 5 steps, your date will realize that she can find someone else who can plan an awesome date and can follow these steps.
So, you thought you had it in the bag, huh? You dressed right, groomed yourself and found all the best places the city has to offer for a “perfect” 1st date. And then…NOTHING. Don’t worry it was her, not you. Yea, keep telling yourself that…but when you’re ready to come back to reality, read the Top 5 Ways to improve you’re chances…
1. DON’T BE BORING
Let’s face it, you’re personality might just suck. If that’s the case, there’s no reason to even read on. Sorry. Let’s face it, even if you can follow up on the next four it won’t mean shit. And I’m not only referring to personality, but in regards to the date too. Don’t take the traditional route. Be spontaneous. If you can pull off a fun, creative date, she’ll already see that you have a creative, spontaneous side. She’ll think that’s sexy. No one wants to hang out with someone who’s boring. So, before continue dating, focus on making yourself more approachable and be a person that people actually want to hang around and talk to. The saying “just be yourself” only makes sense if “yourself” is awesome. If not, focus on being the opposite of yourself. Then go back to dating.
2. DON’T BE CHEAP
When I say don’t be cheap, I don’t mean spend hundreds of dollars on a date to impress her. That’s what douche bags do…don’t be a douche bag. When the check comes, pay it. Don’t ask to “go halfsies”. If you’re in a cab, don’t split it. It’s just so weak. After a few more dates, let her pay. But NEVER on the first date. Even if you’re cheap do not forget to pay! It’s the kiss of death….so expect that to be the only type of kiss to get that night.
3. KISS HER ALREADY!
So you walk her back to her apartment and she says she had a great time. You too, felt like it went great. And then…you freeze. You start to go in for a kiss and “see how she reacts.” You think she doesn’t wan to so you go for a peck on the cheek and a hug. Nice! You secured your position “in the friend zone!” Here’s what to do instead..Don’t think, just do! Especially if she tells you she had a great time, kiss her and stop being a pussy!
4. DON’T BE DESPERATE!
You texted her 5 minutes after she went into her apartment and told her “Hey had a great time…let’s do it again soon.” Guess what she wants to text back? “Yea let’s not.” Instead, she won’t text back anything…ever. No one wants a clinger. No one wants a creeper. Be calm, cool, and confident. Women don’t want people who are available every second of every day. Women want to be with someone who have a work life and a social life. So when do you text back? Well, that 2 day, 3 day rule, of whatever the fuck it is these days is bullshit too. Dating isn’t a science. It doesn’t involve numbers. It involves common sense. So, did you both had a great time? Awesome. Just text her when you have time…just don’t wait a month.
5. TAKE HER TO THE RIGHT PLACES
You’re probably thinking, no it’s not about where we are but the experience we have…Oh God. What experience? The girl doesn’t even know you! Read our first blog that should prepare you more for step 5. You’re pumped! You just found an awesome Italian restaurant with a 3 month wait list, but you’re colleague knows the maitre d’. You’re date wants to talk about herself, but not if she’s uncomfortable! Don’t take her to a fancy restaurant (you’re not proposing to her, are you?) and don’t take her to a dive bar (unless you’re not trying to learn about her and just hoping she’s a slut…in which case a first date isn’t necessary in the first place). Make it exciting, but not uncomfortable. And hey, you should have fun on this date too. You are paying for it after all…right?